tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post9068597213665088914..comments2024-03-23T02:00:27.106+03:00Comments on SUSIE of ARABIA: Widowed in Saudi Arabia - Part 1Susie of Arabiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13315336613944665651noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-86638832351132768672016-06-07T17:57:56.288+03:002016-06-07T17:57:56.288+03:00Hi guys,
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...Hi MellyBrelly - Welcome, and thank you so much!<br /><br />Hi Gaelyn - I know Asima appreciates your support. Thanks - and please don't worry about me.<br /><br />Hi AnnMarie - Thank you! Asima's still not out of the woods, but is making her way on the right path...<br /><br />Hi LostInRiyadh - I think what happened to Asima is something we all need to think about it and prepare for, just in case. One never knows.<br /><br />Hi Aafke - Asima is such a strong woman with such a positive outlook and helpful nature, I don't think she would let anything ever get her down. Chin up!Susie of Arabiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13315336613944665651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-65402148032132980152009-04-20T13:04:00.000+03:002009-04-20T13:04:00.000+03:00Susie, what a scary story! It's allready making me...Susie, what a scary story! It's allready making me very depressed!Aafkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09208127027735552298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-2571184927912109052009-04-20T11:42:00.000+03:002009-04-20T11:42:00.000+03:00Thank you for sharing this story with us.. I must ...Thank you for sharing this story with us.. I must admit this is a big fear I have... but I always pray that my husband lives long enshallah...<br /><br />I pray for her courage and strentgh... Can't wait to read the second part !Lavender ©https://www.blogger.com/profile/13316482212239799511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-36023661365571186592009-04-20T08:47:00.000+03:002009-04-20T08:47:00.000+03:00Can't wait for the next installment of the story, ...Can't wait for the next installment of the story, truly truly enjoy your blog.<br /><br />I hope Asima's life is currently one of peace inshallah.AnnMarienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-61745429827629294642009-04-20T05:06:00.000+03:002009-04-20T05:06:00.000+03:00Susie, my heart raced when I read your title. I am...Susie, my heart raced when I read your title. I am moved by Asima's story. So glad she shared this and allowed for you to tell. You write so well and this story should be published to a larger audience. I look forward to hearing more. Hugs to Asima.<br /><br />I too worry about you.<br /><br />Hugs to you my friend.Gaelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05784162697113288888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-45741455607817966532009-04-20T04:44:00.000+03:002009-04-20T04:44:00.000+03:00I just found your blog the other day, and decided ...I just found your blog the other day, and decided to add your blog to my livejournal friend list, so I made a feed here:<br /><br />http://syndicated.livejournal.com/susiesadventure/profile<br /><br />Just in case other livejournalers want to add you as well!mellybrellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18131108177477824383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-47531042747089944732009-04-20T01:54:00.000+03:002009-04-20T01:54:00.000+03:00Hi Lisa - I don't want to give the story away, but...Hi Lisa - I don't want to give the story away, but Asima is still here, 8 yrs later... <br /><br />Hi CoolRed - I am hopeful that her story and other stories like your own are fair warning to other women considering a move here. Thanks.Susie of Arabiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13315336613944665651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-45281552310346869162009-04-19T22:51:00.000+03:002009-04-19T22:51:00.000+03:00My oh my...unfortunately the potential ending for ...My oh my...unfortunately the potential ending for this story doesnt sound good...and one Ive heard (and lived) far too often over here in the middle east. <br /><br />Stories like this one should really be a lesson to foreign women with stars in their eyes...go ahead and marry your talk dark and handsome prince charming...but prepare for the either prince...or his family (or both) to turn into toads at some point...hopefully they wont but its better to be prepared and not let hindsight be your constant lamented companion.Coolred38https://www.blogger.com/profile/07502256532402473484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-54178751482495411592009-04-19T22:14:00.001+03:002009-04-19T22:14:00.001+03:00Hi Struggling - Stay tuned - the rest is coming so...Hi Struggling - Stay tuned - the rest is coming soon.<br /><br />Hi SanAntonioCicily - I understand - I get angry when I hear frustrating stories too, especially when there's really nothing we can do it about it.<br /><br />Hi Martha - Thanks! I know Asima is reading the comments and appreciates your support!<br /><br />Hi Mel - I really have to thank Asima for sharing her story. I know she shed some tears rehashing everything for me - it wasn't an easy thing for her to do.<br /><br />Hi Anon - You are so right. And hopefully her story will prevent it from happening to someone else.<br /><br />Hi Kay - Yes! It was too long to put in one post, so I divided it up. The 2nd installment is coming up.<br /><br />Hi Aalia - Wills here in Saudi Arabia do not mean much more than the paper they are written on. The best thing to do here, unless you want the courts to divvy everything up according to Islamic law, is to give things away to the people you want to have them before you die, and put properties into the name of the people you want to have them as well. It is very cut and dry here and the person who dies really has no say in how his property is distributed.<br /><br />Hi Supermom - Thank you so much - you made my day!<br /><br />Hi Erin - I can't really give it away because Asima's ending hasn't been written yet - she is still in limbo, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.<br /><br />Hi Always - Undoubtedly Asima would have been better off had they stayed in England...<br /><br />Hi Michelle - Wow - thank you for sharing your situation with us. The US Gov't doesn't like to get involved in familial situations with other countries or jurisdictions. They are of little help. Thanks for your eye-opening comment.<br /><br />Hi Cheela - Please don't worry about me. In the 4th installment, I explain a little about the factors involved in my decision to come here. I am really okay - and I appreciate your concern. Looking forward to seeing you this summer!!!Susie of Arabiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13315336613944665651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-62486556529869307302009-04-19T22:14:00.000+03:002009-04-19T22:14:00.000+03:00I'm afraid of where this is headed. And it sounds...I'm afraid of where this is headed. And it sounds like she wasn't able to leave the country. Oh Susie, I want to thank you today. I sometimes feel bad for wanting to keep Youssef and my in-laws apart, but I truly don't have the patience of Asima. I'm praying for a happy ending for her. Lots of love dear, and great post!Yaseminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09511727103777114798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-40935577376022462162009-04-19T21:35:00.000+03:002009-04-19T21:35:00.000+03:00Susie,
I worry about YOU!Susie,<br /><br />I worry about YOU!Cheelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03481281156499920676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-4621356999679296082009-04-19T21:31:00.000+03:002009-04-19T21:31:00.000+03:00We in the USA like to believe this kind of thing d...We in the USA like to believe this kind of thing doesn't happen in the states, but that's a naive belief to say the least...<br /><br />I am married to a full-blooded, enrolled member of the Hopi tribe. Over the years we have, on occasion, hit rough spots on our journey as husband and wife. I don't have the best relationship with his family either. There are a lot of differences in fundamental values and understanding of roles. <br /><br />Anyway, I have learned to be very careful about making sure that we do not travel to the reservation, nor do I allow my husband to take the children there, whenever we have been having troubles. The reason? The reservation is its own jurisdiction,and if my husband and his family were to decide to keep my children there, it would be a long, expensive, and drawn out legal process to try and get custody restored to me. <br /><br />We considered living out there briefly, as I was a teacher, jobs were plentiful, and living expenses were low. I was strongly advised against doing so by someone who knew better, and thank God daily for taking that advice. If we had established residency on the rez, it would be even more difficult to win custody of my children in the event things went south, because the children would have established ties there in their daily lives. <br /><br />"Stateside" courts don't like to mess with tribal governments and will frequently cave to tribal court decisions to avoid the mess. It's a frustrating and precarious position, to say the least. <br /><br />I sympathize with any woman facing a situation where her rights to her children are jeopardized by laws or customs. I can't even begin to imagine the situation when one is also on the other side of the world, in a foreign country.Michelle with a Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366298105622593013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-58846809080874711342009-04-19T21:12:00.000+03:002009-04-19T21:12:00.000+03:00You don't have to live in KSA for in-laws to make ...You don't have to live in KSA for in-laws to make life hell, but then from the sounds of this story it doesn't sound like it helped....Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00132844193136348896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-4947860562547742372009-04-19T20:30:00.001+03:002009-04-19T20:30:00.001+03:00fascinating stuff and i am eagerly awaiting the ne...fascinating stuff and i am eagerly awaiting the next installment of this. of course, knowing what you have shared previous with us about things...i am thinking it won't be a good ending. <br /><br />thanks for sharing this with us.<br /><br />have a wonderful day.erinhttp://itsnotjustapicture.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-28249047375818623042009-04-19T20:30:00.000+03:002009-04-19T20:30:00.000+03:00fascinating stuff and i am eagerly awaiting the ne...fascinating stuff and i am eagerly awaiting the next installment of this. of course, knowing what you have shared previous with us about things...i am thinking it won't be a good ending. <br /><br />thanks for sharing this with us.<br /><br />have a wonderful day.erinhttp://itsnotjustapicture.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-13060613714114416442009-04-19T19:57:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:57:00.000+03:00Hi! I've been reading ur blog for awhile now ...Hi! I've been reading ur blog for awhile now and I think ur a terrific story teller. Keep up the fantastic writing & can't wait to read the rest of ur story. :)LindaMunshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422279707804753938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-23930359782995768542009-04-19T19:51:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:51:00.000+03:00Hi Susie!!
I am wondering what will happen next.....Hi Susie!!<br /><br />I am wondering what will happen next... Thank God my husband already made a will, which is recommended that ALL Muslims do before they die, so that problems like such are avoided!! Money can bring out the ugly in people, ie. when my Nanny died, relatives who weren't even there to take care of her when she was dying of cancer suddenly popped up and wanted "their share" of her estate. I had to watch my mom go through the hassles of greedy people and she was really sad.<br /><br />I really hope that things turned out well for Asima!!Desert Housewife A. (The Canadian in Jubail)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13322740753145278710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-77438922067896944442009-04-19T19:44:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:44:00.000+03:00Oh my gosh, Susie. What happened next? You will t...Oh my gosh, Susie. What happened next? You will tell us won't you? This is horrible.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461569436322815787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-77218423897112148642009-04-19T19:39:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:39:00.000+03:00True we all have inlaw problems. There are good an...True we all have inlaw problems. There are good and bad people everywhere, but these inlaws had the Saudi government backing up their heinous actions. There are many places where they would not be able to get away with this. It's the disregard for women's rights that caused the problem here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-58576679435335177252009-04-19T19:28:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:28:00.000+03:00Wow! Thank you for sharing Asima's story, Susie! I...Wow! Thank you for sharing Asima's story, Susie! I echo everybody else by saying that I am very anxious to hear the rest.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05432842450432274534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3569425364802315563.post-86242047774261980922009-04-19T19:08:00.000+03:002009-04-19T19:08:00.000+03:00I am anxious to hear the rest of the story. I'm r...I am anxious to hear the rest of the story. I'm rooting for her.Martha Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15797951661712327698noreply@blogger.com